Techniques

Problem-solving for children: asking the right questions

We all want our children to be independent and resourceful, but not necessarily 100% of the time. Sometimes they need help with problem-solving. It’s tough when your little DIY-expert resists your best advice and ignores your words of wisdom, preferring to learn from natural consequences (a.k.a. “the hard way.”) If you wish you could just… Continue reading Problem-solving for children: asking the right questions

For Parents · Me

Just say OK: Notes from the home laboratory

Just say OK. No whining, no arguing, no stomping, no screaming, no debating, no wheedling. It doesn’t work. It never works. Let’s just skip this. Just say OK, and we can move on. I am raising two infinitely optimistic boys, apparently. When they disagree with an instruction or a correction, I hear a lot of… Continue reading Just say OK: Notes from the home laboratory

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Notes from the home laboratory: When in doubt, take data!

It’s Sunday evening. There’s been a sudden increase in the amount of defiance and quarreling, particularly from my eldest son, age almost-five. I’ve done some ignoring and some mild complaining, made a few threats, but nothing improves. I’m feeling discouraged (and frankly speaking, like a complete hypocrite), so I pick up my notebook. “I’m going… Continue reading Notes from the home laboratory: When in doubt, take data!

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Obsessions and fixations: getting stuck and unstuck

If you are the parent of a child with autism or any other developmental diagnosis, you will probably have identified some “restricted interests”  your child is drawn to. Sometimes, these areas of interest can lead to elite academic opportunities, impressive works of art, or gateways to new social connections. Other times, these intense fixations don’t… Continue reading Obsessions and fixations: getting stuck and unstuck

For Parents

House Rules: 4 simple instructions that cover everything

Wash your hands. Use the toilet. Put away your dirty dishes. Don’t drop your socks on the floor. Stop hitting your brother. Don’t experiment with Mommy’s lipstick. Quit banging on the window. That necklace is not a toy. Don’t throw those down the stairs. Wipe up your spill, please. That screaming is hurting my ears.… Continue reading House Rules: 4 simple instructions that cover everything

For Parents · Techniques

Visual schedules: why and how to use?

If you have someone in your life who needs help following a routine or learning a complex new skill, it’s worth thinking about a visual schedule (also known as an activity schedule). There is some good evidence for its use with individuals with a variety of disabilities including Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit… Continue reading Visual schedules: why and how to use?