Reward charts can be such an incredible tool for families, but they work best when you can take a few things into account. define the behaviour really clearly work on baby steps add some reminders to improve your chances of success select smart rewards If you have a Pinterest account, I’ve collected some examples of… Continue reading Reward Chart Mini-Challenge MEGA-POST
Reward charts. Do you shudder a little when you hear those words? Maybe you remember trying it out, or someone tried one on you, and it went sideways or didn’t go anywhere at all. Why do I need a reward chart? Reward charts are simple and very effective way of boosting behaviour you want to… Continue reading Yes, you probably need a reward chart. How to make one that isn’t terrible.
The Sensory Connection My mouse moves across the desk like a OUIJA pointer toward a Facebook tab. My legs leap out of my chair and propel me toward the kitchen. I come back with a steaming mug of tea, but a moment later, I’m sniffing out a bag of sour candy, just in case my… Continue reading Finding the sensory connection: body, brain, and behaviour
Look children! Values! Let us learn some. I’m a behaviourist, so what am I doing, trying to write about values? Aren’t they abstract, airy-fairy things, and thus out of my realm? Aren’t they impossible to teach to children who are non-verbal or who have developmental delays? Let’s go ahead and test these theories… Values =… Continue reading Family Values: Character in Action
“I tried and I tried and I didn’t give up!” When my 5-year-old son said this out loud the other day (brand new yo-yo in hand and very little aptitude or previous experience), I just about did back-flips. I’ve been quietly brainwashing (ahem, I mean) coaching and teaching this concept very deliberately for as long… Continue reading Don’t give up! Teaching growth mindset
We all want our children to be independent and resourceful, but not necessarily 100% of the time. Sometimes they need help with problem-solving. It’s tough when your little DIY-expert resists your best advice and ignores your words of wisdom, preferring to learn from natural consequences (a.k.a. “the hard way.”) If you wish you could just… Continue reading Problem-solving for children: asking the right questions
My father often says something rather wise: you get what you pay for. In many cases, a reward is like a payment, and it makes that behaviour more likely to occur in the future (whether you planned for it or not.) This post is all about how this strategy can back-fire, and why. In the… Continue reading Rewards and side-effects- part 2
Child: *Poke poke poke poke poke poke* Me: “Sweetie, what are you doing?” Child: “I’m waiting for you to say ‘please stop’ so I can say OKAY!” Uh oh. As I mentioned last week, I’ve been working on training the children to be more agreeable, and I promised that there would be a reward when… Continue reading Rewards and side-effects, part 1
Just say OK. No whining, no arguing, no stomping, no screaming, no debating, no wheedling. It doesn’t work. It never works. Let’s just skip this. Just say OK, and we can move on. I am raising two infinitely optimistic boys, apparently. When they disagree with an instruction or a correction, I hear a lot of… Continue reading Just say OK: Notes from the home laboratory
Sending clear signals Let me show you something that will make your life so much easier. Just like a traffic light, we need the right signals to tell us what to do. This might seem simplistic, but bear with me. At first, you may give me a look like the cat below: Next, I’ll explain… Continue reading Green Means Go!