I’ve been a teacher and a behaviour therapist for years, but my job as a mother was harder than I ever imagined.
The usual advice didn’t seem to fit my child. I thought I had mastered the basics: consistency, boundaries, rewards and consequences, but my child still wasn’t following instructions or cooperating. We kept getting stuck battling through power struggles. My child was in trouble at daycare and school, and nothing seemed to help. I wanted my child to learn kindness and empathy, but he just seemed angry.
I felt like a failure. I wasn’t enjoying the time I spent at home, because at any moment, a little problem could spin out into a major disaster. I wanted to feel in control, but more importantly, I wanted to my children to learn how to make good choices.
I needed to stop feeling like I was at war with my own child. I needed a way to escape those fights that seem to spiral until I was swept away in emotion and frustration. I needed some peace and cooperation. I needed a way to teach my child so that he could learn and get better, instead of running into the same ugly consequences over and over again.
Everything changed when I realized what the missing ingredient was. It felt as if we were finally “getting connected.”
When I learned how to get connected, I discovered that I could enjoy each day with so many more kind words, jokes, and cuddles. I saw my child develop more self-control and problem-solving skills. I heard more positive words spoken in our home, instead of threats and complaints. I felt calmer. I felt proud.
If you feel stuck in the same pattern of punishment and frustration, and your child doesn’t seem to learn in the usual way, I can help.
If you are tired of yelling and threatening, let’s work together to help you get connected with your child, so they hear you the first time.
Learn how to escape the daily battles, and experience more fun and compassion in your family.
p.s. when I’m not thinking about families and behaviour,
I love getting creative and sharing my ideas in the form of illustrations.
Here’s one of the first pieces I created for parents: it’s a map of Parenthood.
If you’re feeling lost, I hope we can work together, so you can get where you need to go.