How to avoid behaviour bear traps

How to avoid behaviour bear traps

Here’s a ridiculous question: would you rather be treated for a bear trap injury, or learn how to avoid one in the first place? It’s a gruesome image, but when I think about some of the most upsetting behavioural problems parents face, it seems pretty apt. When a big...
Mother’s Day: Messy Edition

Mother’s Day: Messy Edition

A lavender card, and some tender words scrawled in crayon. A croissant balanced on a tray, a fresh flower, and a bud vase. When you imagine a proper Mother’s Day, is this what you see? Does your heart ache a little at the thought of this Instagram-worthy display,...

Stop to savour this heroic moment. Maybe you got clocked in the ear with a flying shoe, and you took a deep breath instead of saying the choice word that came to mind. Maybe you smiled and muttered some reassuring words as you mopped a full glass of water off your...
Don’t blame yourself when anger hits

Don’t blame yourself when anger hits

Don’t blame yourself when you start losing your temper. Do this instead. An extra-hard kick to the back of your chair. Your child’s voice shouting: “I don’t care!”  Your great-grandmother’s favourite teacup smashed on the floor. One moment, you’re just annoyed, and...
What truly motivates my child?

What truly motivates my child?

I’m stuck. I can’t persuade him. She won’t listen. She just doesn’t care. As parents, we want to do our absolute best to help our kids. We want them to learn how to get along with others, and make the most of their opportunities. Unfortunately, that can be...
The uncomfortable truth about removing privileges

The uncomfortable truth about removing privileges

Overheard in a discussion group for parents: “I’ve taken away his XBox for the whole weekend, but he just smiles.” “I can’t motivate her. Her bedroom is basically empty at this point.” When we want our kids to learn a hard lesson or make an important change in their...
5 Hidden Reasons for Challenging Behaviour

5 Hidden Reasons for Challenging Behaviour

Why do children do such unexpected and frankly baffling things when it would be SO MUCH EASIER to just listen to a grown-up? If you have stood at the door, shaking your head while your child rushes around to collect a suddenly VERY IMPORTANT object, or waited at the...

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