Just say OK. No whining, no arguing, no stomping, no screaming, no debating, no wheedling. It doesn’t work. It never works. Let’s just skip this. Just say OK, and we can move on. I am raising two infinitely optimistic boys, apparently. When they disagree with an instruction or a correction, I hear a lot of… Continue reading Just say OK: Notes from the home laboratory
Let me show you something that will make your life so much easier. Just like a traffic light, we need the right signals to tell us what to do. This might seem simplistic, but bear with me. At first, you may give me a look like the cat below: Next, I’ll explain how to make… Continue reading Green Means Go!
If you are the parent of a child with autism or any other developmental diagnosis, you will probably have identified some “restricted interests” your child is drawn to. Sometimes, these areas of interest can lead to elite academic opportunities, impressive works of art, or gateways to new social connections. Other times, these intense fixations don’t… Continue reading Obsessions and fixations: getting stuck and unstuck
This week, I was talking to a family who loved each other dearly but wanted to reduce the amount of nagging in the household (this story is shared with their permission.) The mother had carefully created a list all the household tasks, and offered a reward if the kids fulfilled one of the tasks in… Continue reading Shaping
Wash your hands. Use the toilet. Put away your dirty dishes. Don’t drop your socks on the floor. Stop hitting your brother. Don’t experiment with Mommy’s lipstick. Quit banging on the window. That necklace is not a toy. Don’t throw those down the stairs. Wipe up your spill, please. That screaming is hurting my ears.… Continue reading House Rules: 4 simple instructions that cover everything
If you have someone in your life who needs help following a routine or learning a complex new skill, it’s worth thinking about a visual schedule (also known as an activity schedule). There is some good evidence for its use with individuals with a variety of disabilities including Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit… Continue reading Visual schedules: why and how to use?
If you’re a parent of young children, you have probably heard some version of the bedtime begging. Classic examples include “I have to go pee!” or “Can I have a glass of water?” Many children get more creative, and suddenly develop an allergy to the colour of their blanket, or find they simply must change… Continue reading Bedtime begging: how to fix
Something amazing happened in my house this morning, and I can’t stop talking about it. It’s very personal, but it’s also connected to Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA) in an important way. I am a mother of two little sons, and since I’ve started working more irregular hours, their separation anxiety has been going through the… Continue reading Separation Anxiety: A Behavioural Strategy
What does a behaviour consultant do? Good question. Not one that most people could answer. It’s an emerging field, and it’s only recently that Board Certified Behaviour Therapists (BCBAs) have become relatively easy to find in Canada and the United States. Behaviour therapists work in prisons, hospitals, schools, and even as consultants to corporations.… Continue reading Is it time to call a behaviour consultant?