We all want our children to be independent and resourceful, but not necessarily 100% of the time. Sometimes they need help with problem-solving. It’s tough when your little DIY-expert resists your best advice and ignores your words of wisdom, preferring to learn from natural consequences (a.k.a. “the hard way.”) If you wish you could just… Continue reading Problem-solving for children: asking the right questions
My father often says something rather wise: you get what you pay for. In the case of the exasperated dog trainer from last week’s post, we saw a pretty good illustration of this idea. She rewarded her dog for refraining from bad behaviour for 3 seconds, and that’s what the dog continued to do. They… Continue reading Rewards and side-effects- part 2
Child: *Poke poke poke poke poke poke* Me: “Sweetie, what are you doing?” Child: “I’m waiting for you to say ‘please stop’ so I can say OKAY!” Uh oh. As I mentioned last week, I’ve been working on training the children to be more agreeable, and I promised that there would be a reward when… Continue reading Rewards and side-effects, part 1
Let me show you something that will make your life so much easier. Just like a traffic light, we need the right signals to tell us what to do. This might seem simplistic, but bear with me. At first, you may give me a look like the cat below: Next, I’ll explain how to make… Continue reading Green Means Go!
If you are the parent of a child with autism or any other developmental diagnosis, you will probably have identified some “restricted interests” your child is drawn to. Sometimes, these areas of interest can lead to elite academic opportunities, impressive works of art, or gateways to new social connections. Other times, these intense fixations don’t… Continue reading Obsessions and fixations: getting stuck and unstuck
This week, I was talking to a family who loved each other dearly but wanted to reduce the amount of nagging in the household (this story is shared with their permission.) The mother had carefully created a list all the household tasks, and offered a reward if the kids fulfilled one of the tasks in… Continue reading Shaping
If you have someone in your life who needs help following a routine or learning a complex new skill, it’s worth thinking about a visual schedule (also known as an activity schedule). There is some good evidence for its use with individuals with a variety of disabilities including Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit… Continue reading Visual schedules: why and how to use?
If you’re a parent of young children, you have probably heard some version of the bedtime begging. Classic examples include “I have to go pee!” or “Can I have a glass of water?” Many children get more creative, and suddenly develop an allergy to the colour of their blanket, or find they simply must change… Continue reading Bedtime begging: how to fix
B.S.T. Best Skill-building Technique. Build Someone’s Tenacity. Broad Spectrum Treatment. Barn-Storming Truism? When I first read a description of this training technique in my textbook, I shrugged. Yeah, sure, of course, you describe a skill, then model it, then rehearse in a practice setting, then try it out live with feedback. What kind of idiot… Continue reading Behaviour Skills Training (BST)